Tue, 7 April 2015
Adoption is the legal process of adding a person to an existing family. Adoption, unlike foster care, is meant to be permanent. The goal of adoption is to provide lifelong security to the child and the adoptive family.
Children who are orphaned are obvious candidates for adoption. Children can be adopted if the parents give up the child voluntarily or if the child is freed involuntarily through the court process known as termination of parental rights. International adoption (adoption of children from other countries, for example, from foreign orphanages) is also often possible.
Depending on the type, adoption can sometimes cost tens of thousands of rands. Having experienced legal representation or expert in this field helps the adoptive parents regardless of the type of adoption.
Sometimes, adoptive parents connect with birth parents. The parties may already be related in some way. For example, a stepparent can adopt a spouse's birth child or grandparents can adopt their grandchildren. In other cases, parents may connect through word of mouth or newspaper advertisements.
In some cases, birth parents may appreciate the chance to visit the child. A positive relationship with the birth parents may make adoptive parents less likely to worry that the birth parents will try to reclaim the child. Maintaining a relationship with the birth family usually benefits the child. All such issues are often best discussed with an expert (such as a mental health professional and a legal professional) before deciding whether or not to have an open adoption.
To decide whether to adopt a child or not is always a difficult and emotional decision. You need to decide what age group you are looking at since it might take a lot longer to get a baby to adopt. You also need to decide whether you would be willing to adopt a child of another race and the adjustments that you need to make to ensure that you could accommodate your adopted child.
Adoption in South Africa normally takes place through the use of Adoption Agencies.
How does the adoption process in South Africa work?
Relative to the rest of the world, our process in South Africa is easy and fast. Screening process includes the following steps: (and this differs slightly from organisation to organisation)
- Counselling and interviews focusing on infertility, background, marriage, extended family support, parenting, finances, culture and home environment
- Home visit
- Full medical
- Psychometric testing
- Police Clearance
- Matching, placement and legal finalisation
- Two year after care and support
The screening and preparation process can take up to four to six months. Depending on the race of the child you are applying for, the wait for a baby can be anywhere from 4 months to 5 years.
For more information on the steps, the law, the costs and dealing with the emotions of adoption, contact:
Terri Lailvaux - Counsellor - Dip C (Inst NH)
Cell: 083 325 6034
Fax: 086 759 0813
Terri Lailvaux - Counsellor - Dip C (Inst NH)
Cell: 083 325 6034
Fax: 086 759 0813
Support Group: 011 640 6685
Major Welfare Adoption Agencies BADISA (CMR);
11 Pastorie Street, or Private Bag X8, Bellville, 7535
Tel: 021 957 7130.
Child Welfare Adoption Centre (formerly at 13 Electric Road, Wynberg, 7800 -associated with Cape Town Child Welfare)
Lower Klipfontein Road, Gatesville, Athlone, 7764.
Tel: 021 638 3127
PROCARE 91 Church Street, Wellington
Po Box 6005, Paarl, 7622.
Tel: 021 873 0532
ACVV Adoption Service (021) 461 7437 or 511 2972
Birthline (021) 761 4747
Catholic Women’s League Adoption Society (011) 618 1533
Child Welfare Adoption Centre (021) 674 4170
Choices Crisis Pregnancy Centre (021) 852 6454
Crisis Line (011) 614 3149
Johannesburg Welfare (011) 331 0171
Orange Vrouevereniging Tak (051) 447 1838
Princess Alice Adoption Home (011) 646 5641/486 1137. Referrals by JHB Welfare
Thu, 5 March 2015
A Guide to Raising Happy, Healthy and Caring Children
Despite what researchers used to believe, studies are now finding that children can show signs of empathy and concern from a very early age. As moms, many of us are well aware of this fact, particularly when we see our babies act in a caring manner that warms our hearts. What is important to note, however, is the positive impact this kind of behaviour can have on the overall wellbeing of our little ones.
According to the book, Teaching Children to Care by Ruth Charney1, engaging our bright stars in caring ways can build strong characters and nurture young spirits. In this manner, we can also guide our tiny tots to avoid the pitfalls of boredom, self-centredness and feelings of alienation.
Not only is Pampers® the country’s leading nappy brand, it is also a brand synonymous with caring. This is perhaps best evidenced by its recent UNICEF campaign which saw one life-saving vaccination donated to a mother and child in need, for every pack of Pampers® nappies and wipes purchased. This special brand of care is also shared by the Pampers® Institute; a network of experts who seek to guide moms on how best to nurture their babies.
Pampers® Institute panellist and parenting expert, Sister Lilian agrees with the need to teach children to be more compassionate and says, “In South Africa we have our very own home-grown model on how best to raise a happy, healthy and caring child.”
“The spirit of Ubuntu is a Xhosa expression that simply means, ‘people are people through other people’. To expand on this, the term refers to the fact that we are human because we belong to the human community and we view and treat others accordingly. Ubuntu is an African word for a universal concept that we as mothers can use to guide us.”
“After many years of caring for moms, dads and their babies, I truly believe that it is more our responsibility to teach our children to live in a world in which all people embrace peace and equality; embody the essence and spirit of Ubuntu in their work, family and community lives; be encouraged and inspired to use their inherent abilities to the fullest; and find their passion to participate in, contribute to fully and benefit fairly from South Africa’s growing prosperity,” adds Sister Lilian.
A Spirit of Ubuntu Roadmap
While children are born with their own unique personalities, Sister Lilian believes that it is our duty as parents to demonstrate to our little ones how truly important it is that they behave with kindness and a fair sense of responsibility. “All children act in a thoughtless manner at times simply because they are still finding their way in the world, and learning about behaviour that is either suitable or unacceptable. These are the precious moments when moms can step in and teach the qualities of compassion, kindness and empathy,” adds Sister Lilian.
An Act of Kindness
When imparting these key life lessons Sister Lilian also advises concerned moms and dads to focus on the act and not the child. “Little ones are far more sensitive than we realise, and if we want them to continue believing they are still little champs in our eyes, it’s important to never put them down personally. When we focus on the act and give open and honest feedback, a child feels more able and willing to rise to the occasion and become a more caring human being.”
Lead by Shining Example
Sister Lilian closes by emphasising that if we set happy, healthy and caring examples then this too, is how our bright stars will conduct themselves as they set off towards their futures. Guide our children so that they too can be the change we wish to see in the world.
1. Teaching Children to Care: Management in the Responsive Classroom, Ruth Charney
Mon, 9 February 2015
When it comes to children, if used correctly, technology can be a huge asset. If not, it can be a huge problem. However, there is no way that one can avoid it. Our world is changing constantly. The primary toys of today’s children are computers, iPods, tablets and mobile phones ...
Tue, 24 February 2015
Mom2B Pregnancy Shakes now come in delicious chocolate delight flavor and assist in the provision of nutritional, vitamin and mineral requirements of moms and their babies before and during pregnancy and while breastfeeding.
Click here to enter our competition and stand a chance to win a hamper
The shakes provide an affordable ...
Fri, 23 January 2015
Moms all over the country are wondering what to pack in those lunchboxes! Herewith a few simple ideas:
Medium pita bread with mince, tomato, lettuce and cottage cheese
Chocolate flavored milk
Whole-wheat roll with sliced beef, cucumber & lettuce
Honey & Mustard Chicken with couscous and mushrooms, peppers & onion
Digestive / ...
Sat, 29 November 2014
The umbilical cord (also called the birth cord or funiculus umbilicalis) is the connecting cord between the developing embryo or fetus to the placenta. Developed from the same zygote as the fetus, the umbilical cord normally contains two arteries (the umbilical arteries) and one vein (the umbilical vein), buried within ...
Mon, 4 November 2013
It is normal to itch during pregnancy due to changes in hormones and skin stretching. However, in a few cases this itching could be the main symptom of a high-risk pregnancy condition called intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy (ICP).
What is intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy (ICP)?
Intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy (ICP) is the ...
Thu, 21 August 2014
Becoming a new parent can be overwhelming with all the planning for the new arrival as well as getting to know all the baby basics. Pregnancy is the happiest time of your life and expecting parents often do not think about immune disorders or blood diseases when expecting their little ...
Fri, 8 August 2014
5 Qualities Of An Extraordinary MomWith South Africa celebrating National Womens day on 9 August, we decided to share our extraordinary Mom article with you:
At first I debated about even writing this piece. I will tell you why, I think that as moms, we are to hard on ourselves. It ...
Mon, 4 August 2014
Ultimately the “best” age gap between kids is a personal decision that is often influenced by circumstances such as infertility, miscarriage or an unplanned pregnancy.
Women who have had caesareans are often advice by doctors to wait at least six months to a year before trying for another baby. This ...
Mon, 4 August 2014
A miscarriage (spontaneous abortion) is the loss of a fetus due to natural causes before 24 weeks of pregnancy.
Miscarriage is a common end to a high-risk pregnancy. A miscarriage occurs in about 15% of recognized pregnancies. Many more miscarriages may be unrecognized because they occur before women know they are ...
Mon, 21 July 2014
The Philips AVENT ‘Grown up cup’
The Philips AVENT ‘Grown up cup’ or ‘Toddler cup’ is a revolutionary cup that helps children transition from bottles to cups without all the mess.
The unique spill proof valve is an innovation, specially designed by experts at Philips AVENT. The valve is lip activated ...
Tue, 1 July 2014
Bullying in South Africa is a serious problem in schools. There have been several recent cases of children committing suicide after being victimised by fellow students. Bullying can be defined as the intentional, conscious desire to hurt, threaten or frighten another individual. It can take the form of physical abuse ...
Fri, 20 June 2014
ADHD medication as an example.
ADHD medication is a difficult subject for most parents of children with this disorder. On the one hand we want to give our children the best advantage we can, while on the other we are scared about all the side-effects and stories we hear of children ...
Fri, 30 May 2014
Hazards / risks that could be harmful to pregnant woman:
- Handling of chemical substance such as drugs, pesticides, lead etc.
- Inadequate facilities (including rest rooms)
- Excessive working hours (nightshifts etc)
- Unusually stressful work
- Exposure to cigarette smoke
- High or low temperatures
- Work on heights
- Extensive traveling
- Exposure to violence
Apart from the well-known dangers that ...